48 Laws of Power - Law 13: When asking for help, appeal to people's self-interest, never to their mercy or gratitude
From my throne, I have watched thousands of people ask me for help. Nobles and common folk, merchants and soldiers, all wanting something from their king. After many years, I learned a simple truth about people. This truth has helped me rule my kingdom well. Here is the secret: when you ask someone for help, never remind them of past favors or beg for their kindness. Instead, show them how helping you will benefit them. This is the thirteenth law of power, and it works every time. Why Reminding People of Favors Doesn't Work Imagine a nobleman once saved another from losing his land. Years later, the first man needs help. He goes to the man he saved and says, "Remember when I saved your estate? Now I need your help." What happens? Does the second man feel grateful and rush to he...